“The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth.” Proverbs 12:22

Truth-telling time.  One of my biggest pet peeves is….Santa and everything he represents.  There I said it.  I CANNOT stand when parents tell their kids about Santa at Christmas, for many reasons but I will explain a two of them.

Selfish reason:  As a parent who works hard to provide for my family, why would I give the purchasing credit of presents to some dude in a red suite?  It makes no sense.

Practical reason:  Lying!  A lie is a lie; there is no such thing as a white lie or an innocent lie in the eyes of God.  Why would you tell your children about Santa, the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy?  They are all lies.  You are basically saying, “it is okay to lie to my children for a fun purpose.”  Again, it makes no sense to me.  If I want to teach my children specific values I don’t wait until later to do it because I want them to experience something “fun” first; I teach them right away.  The same would go for Santa Claus.  Parents tell their kids about Santa until they are old enough to be told the truth and not believe the lie, explaining it was just a myth or story people tell their kids.  No, don’t kid yourself, you are lying to your children.  Plain and simple.

If you lie to them now, what makes you think they will take us seriously later?  If you lie to them now, don’t you think you are teaching them that it is okay to lie?  We (parents) are their example so if mom/dad does it then it must be okay!

This is the same reason why I do not buy my little girls bikinis for swimming.  People think it is adorable to see their little girls in bikinis during the summer but what happens when your little girls become well-endowed young ladies?  Is that bikini looking adorable then?  If you think it is you may want to reconsider what message you are allowing your kids to send.

As a parent, it is my job to protect my children.  God protects His children and expects us to protect those that He has entrusted us to raise.  Protection from perverted men who stare at our young ladies and yes, protection from lies from our own mouths.

Because we are a family that chooses not to lie, the only “ho-ho-ho” we here in our house is when someone says our last name.

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‘Tis the Season!

Hey friends,

As a change of pace, from my usual post, I have decided to raffle off a couple of thank you gifts.

The first one is called “Time with the Lord” which includes: Coffee mug, Latte packages, $5 Starbucks gift card, Prayers and Promises book, Crazy Love book, writing journal, purple pen and Angel ornament.

The second one is called “Writer’s Goodies” which includes: Coffee mug, $5 Starbucks gift card, Book/laptop light, Words from the Heart book, The 2,548 Best Things Anyone has Ever Said book, monthly planner notes, pink pen, and Christmas tree ornament.

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Please visit my Facebook fan page to enter the contest.  Contest starts tomorrow morning and runs until December 17th.  I will announce the winners on my Facebook page.

Much Obliged!

“Therefore, since we receive a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us show gratitude, by which we may offer to God an acceptable service with reverence and awe.”  Hebrews 12:28 NASB

A few days ago our country celebrated Thanksgiving, my favorite holiday.  We have several different traditions for that day but one of my favorite is Southern Hospitality.

Not many people open their doors to strangers, those in need and hungry but it has been my policy since I became an adult.

We have a tablecloth that sits upon our table every Thanksgiving, for anyone dinning with us to write what they are thankful for.  Most people celebrate this day with just their family but because we live so far away from all of ours it is extremely rare that they are at our Thanksgiving table.  Long story short, my tablecloth is still filled with “thankfulness” from others who have eaten with us over the past twelve years.

I feel as though Christ would have dinned with anyone in need, giving people a glimpse of Southern Hospitality.  Say what you will about the south but those southerners, some of my family members included, are so welcoming making people feel a part of their family no matter where they come from.

That’s how I see Jesus.

Because I am so grateful for the unshakable kingdom He has provided for me, I make every effort to bring people into my family.  If I see someone in need of a meal I don’t just throw cash at them or grab them a burger and toss it their way.  I will invite them to join me while I eat or will sit and visit with them while they eat.  With gratitude for Him, I serve.

I chose the New American Standard Bible version of this verse because it asks us to “offer God acceptable service” which would be handing out cash or purchasing a meal.  But then it goes a step further and says, “with reverence and awe” meaning be Much Obliged (Southern word for grateful), for what God has provided us, by eating with the person to build a family bound.

Happy “Reverence and Awe” Day!

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“Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.”  Proverbs 3:3

My husband and I were watching the news last night.  Being broadcast all over the nation was a story about a young man being shot by a police officer.  It occurred several months back, went to trial, was reviewed for three months by a grand jury (only) and the verdict was in.

All over the streets, in several major cities, people gathered in groups of a few hundred awaiting the announcement.  This story had become, what some people declared, a race issue.  Here is where the tricky part comes into play.

Those who were watching from home heard the explanation of why the verdict was decided.  Unfortunately, those in the streets only heard the verdict not the explanation.  The explanation made perfect sense because what was originally told to the public, months prior, was inaccurate information and was only discovered after all the evidence was collected and reviewed by the grand jury.  What happened next among those people is a shame.

The reporters recorded many people civilly leaving the scene after the announcement took place.  People from both sides of the situation.  However, since the news broadcasters or public officials didn’t think to broadcast, via loud speakers, the entire announcement that those at home heard, riots broke out.

From what the reporters chose to show of the riots, people were breaking into and destroying businesses.  What purpose does that serve?  It didn’t change anything with the outcome.  It didn’t get back at anyone involved.  Most of the people who were looting were doing so, not because they agreed with either side, they just wanted to take advantage of a bad situation.

Most of this could have been avoided, if only people heard the entire speech and utilized a little kindness because they understood the whole truth.

Ignorant: lacking knowledge or information as to a particular subject or fact; uninformed; unaware.

Wisdom: knowledge of what is true or right coupled with just judgment as to action.

I believe those in charge were lacking wisdom and those involved in the destructive actions were behaving ignorantly.  In my opinion, in this situation, lacking wisdom far out weighed the ignorance because they could have prevented some of the ignorance from occurring.

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“Have mercy on me, my God, have mercy on me, for in you I take refuge.  I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings until the disaster has passed.”  Psalm 57:1

There have been many times in my life that I have questioned God as to why certain things are happening; pain, loss, harm, anger, etc.  Many of the people who I have counseled have asked the same things.  I have even heard family members and Christian friends asking why does He do these things to me?

Did you know that God actually promises us that this life is not supposed to be all daisies and roses, of course I am paraphrasing but John 16:33 states that we will have “trials and tribulations.”  It doesn’t say those who are not saved will have them or that if you are saved you will never face them again, it actually guarantees that everyone will have their own set.

Why do people believe that once they get saved nothing bad will ever happen to them again or that if they simply pray to God that He will take away every problem they are facing?  That makes absolutely no sense and here is why.  If everything on Earth was perfect we (the entire human race) would have no desire to ever desire a relationship with Him, meaning we would never want to be in His eternal kingdom.  We would not seek a relationship with Him, defeating the whole purpose of why we were created.

Our lives are planned out by Him, Who created us.  We go through hardships for many different reasons, none of which are our right to know why.  Think of it like a recipe.  You would never just eat salt in heaping bowl fulls but when a designated amount is added to a bunch of other ingredients, that the salt does not know about, it makes the most mouth-watering dish because it brings out its flavor.  So it goes with our Creator.  He knows the dish that is intended to sit upon a plate but has to combine a whole lot of things in order for it to end up delightfully served.  One day, probably not until we reach Heaven, we will see the full meal but right now be grateful salt is not the only thing that your plate will consist of.

An example I can give you of this is my husband and I have had nine miscarriages.  During that heartbreaking time in our lives I was so angry and did not understand why God would put me through it over and over again.  Many years later, I was confronted with other couples who were grieving the loss of babies and we were able to minister to them; something of which we never would have been able to do without the salt we experienced.

He has been my refuge during many a disaster and Who better to seek refuge with then the One Who is the Great Protector!

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“And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light.” 2 Corinthians 11:14

A long time ago I was watching some show (not sure which one and if any of you figure it out please don’t judge me if it was a less than a Christian thing to watch because I wasn’t always a Christian) where two characters were talking about being a vegetarian versus being a meat eater.  One person was talking about the idea of killing innocent animals when a person eats meat and the other one said, “well if eating meat is murder then murder tastes good.”

That phrase just popped into my head today when reading this verse.  *Side Note: I do not believe it is a sin to eat animal meat*  It made me think about how often we do things because they don’t seem too bad, they feel good or nobody else seems to mind what we are doing but the reality is that doesn’t make it right or righteous, to put it another way.  I can think of many examples, from my own life, that would fit the bill; eating candy bars as dessert or snacks, driving five miles over the speed limit, feeling the need to take charge of things, purchasing something because I need it even if I can wait a little while longer before spending the money to get it.  I am not saying all these things are bad for everyone but Satan/sin often disguises him/itself as something great; sex before marriage (feels great but not in God’s plan for anyone’s lives), stealing a grape at the supermarket (yes you may have wanted to try it to make sure it was sweet but it is still technically stealing), etc.  Really this list could go on and on.

The point I am trying to make is Satan is the father of lies and deception.  He wants you to indulge yourself because when you fill yourself with the pleasures of the world you leave little, if any, room for filling yourself with the Holy Spirit.  Let’s face it, how will we ever be able to see through Satan’s beautiful mask if we don’t utilize the view the Holy Spirit instills in us?

Trying to be a little more cautious with my day-to-day life, while risk taking for the Lord.  Have you spent any time looking through the Holy Spirit’s view?

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“You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your own stability.” 2 Peter 3:17

It is no secret to people who knew me growing up, that I was less than perfect; many can go as far as saying I was a nightmare at times, especially my parents.  I spent a great deal of time going against the grain, in a bad sort of way, wanting to shock those around me with how okay I was at doing the “bad” thing.  I was tattooed, pierced, drank, smoked cigarettes, attempted to try drugs, cussed, had premarital sex….really the list could go on and on.  (Side note:  I am not saying everything I did was bad, such as having a drink, but how I did it definitely was, that is a story for another time.)  For those of you who didn’t know me prior to renewing my faith, I am genuinely sorry if this upsets you.

My desire back then was to stick it to the man, anyone that rubbed me the wrong way or just for the sake of ticking someone off.  I didn’t care how my behavior effected anyone else.  I was tired of getting pushed around, talked about behind my back, looked down on or treated poorly so I decided to be the one doing the pushing.  However, nothing I did, from my point of view was that bad.  At the time I don’t think I even thought anything was wrong with the way I was behaving.  I was wrong.

I do not believe a person should be holier-than-though and I am not saying this to sound that way but as a mother of five children I would be utterly mortified if my kids behaved, dressed or spoke the way that I did back then.  Thinking of who I was truly disgusts me because I cannot fathom how I had such little respect for my own body, for God’s “vessel” or even for the people who were subjected to my actions.

This past weekend my husband and I went on a weekend getaway, without our kids, which has not happened in the fourteen years that we have been together.  We went to “Sin City” Las Vegas, Nevada.  We had such an amazing time, spending quality time with each other sharing four days of us time.  There really is no way to describe how fantastic it was, it was like a lifetime of date nights wrapped up into one weekend.  Although we did not partake in the “Sin” part of the city, we did witness it firsthand smack dab in our faces.

We spent most of the weekend off doing things but one of the afternoons we walked the strip and it just broke my heart.  Pretty much everything I did to myself as a teen and young adult was displayed in front of thousands of people, via the residents of the strip.  Those that were involved in the happenings were behaving as though it was no big deal “an everyday way of life.”  All I wanted to do was hug them and tell them there is so much better for them in life.  In no way am I wanting to sound judgmental but I don’t understand how they do not see worth in themselves, I do not see how I did not see worth in myself.

Yes it is called “Sin City” because sin is everywhere but it is everywhere all over the world, why should Vegas specifically be labeled as such?  Being there, walking through the people turning a blind eye to the hurting….believe me, from experience, they are hurting even if they act as though they are okay with what they are doing….made me think of it as the “Lost City.”

So these people or that city may may think it is okay to be of the world, openly loving sin, but I am just in this world temporarily and feel sick when I see sin but only because I want everyone to join me WHERE I am going and the only way to do that is to no longer be of this world.

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