“A fool vents all of his feelings, but a wise man holds them back.” Proverbs 29:11
Forward or direct would be a kind way of explaining who I am. I have had a handful of people tell me over the years that they take offense to my way of addressing issues. This is clearly an area of struggle for me because I know what my heart feels but what comes out of my mouth creates tension in others; completely not my intent but intent doesn’t always matter.
I have come to discover that people want things sugar-coated, even if I don’t. Just as some people take offense when things are said too directly, I take offense when people dance around a subject with me. For me, when I sugar coat things I feel as though I am not being honest and I love honesty. So if I have a problem with someone and I sugar coat the telling of said problem it feels as though I am lying. The same could be said when someone sugar coats things they need to address with me; I feel as though they are lying not telling the whole truth.
For many years I have felt that this was the way God made me and if someone doesn’t like it then oh well for them but I understand that is the wrong attitude to have. Yes it is the way God made me, with the purpose of having places in my life to grow from. If I was made perfect I would never need His guidance in my life. Some people struggle with problems of being giving or loving, I happen to struggle, at this moment, with gentleness. This isn’t the first Fruit of the Spirit He has addressed in my life and I am sure it won’t be the last.
I have to start looking at the situations as though I am trying to protect God’s other children from harm. He wants me to hold back my feelings so they do not get hurt as I have. That is totally understandable. Since I view my sugar-coating as lying but Proverbs 29:11 states otherwise, I guess that means I am reading more into it that He is.
Here is to another fruit I must learn to swallow and enjoy.
Not Yet But Getting There! (notyetproverbs31)